I have this weird need to be disciplined when I do something wrong in any aspect of my life. I also often feel like my life would go on track if someone would just throw me over their knee and teach me to get my act together. But, in a loving way. Like a parent would. I feel like this is wrong. And I’m having trouble talking about it with my significant other. Is there any advice that you can give me?

A: That’s a really interesting question and I think I have more questions for you than answers. I’m wondering about your history with being disciplined. I’m wondering if you were under-disciplined? Maybe you didn’t have enough structure growing up? Or you were harshly disciplined? Watch the video for the rest of this answer.

Take good care of yourself,

Julie Hanks, LCSW