You are not a “drama queen.” Your anxiety is significantly disrupting your life and causing you great distress. It is “past regularity.” Though anxiety is clearly a problem for you, determining which specific type of anxiety disorder is difficult to do over the Internet. You may have symptoms of obsessive-compulsive disorder and panic disorder but I cannot know that with certainty. Clinically, your symptoms fall under the broad umbrella of anxiety.
It is advisable to be evaluated by a mental health professional. Choose a therapist who specializes in anxiety disorders and who has a proven track record of assisting clients with these disorders.
In the meantime, you may want to consider completing anxiety workbooks or consulting other self-help materials. A particularly effective anxiety workbook is The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr. David Burns. Dr. Burns utilizes a cognitive approach to overcoming anxiety and phobias. Cognitive therapy is a therapeutic approach that focuses on identifying and correcting dysfunctional and irrational thinking.
Psychiatric medication may also help. Medication doesn’t cure anxiety disorders but it can significantly decrease the severity of the symptoms. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle