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I am unemployed since past 4 months, my previous company got shut down and this happened before as well with me. I was working as a Recruiter with a US Recruitment Firm but they closed there branch here in Mumbai due to Management shortfall. I am feeling clueless and confused about my career. I did figure out certain options that I would like to pursue further but I feel I can’t do it now. I am falling short of Money to invest in a course. But Recruitment does not excites me anymore, or any job which is target orientated.

I had Graduated in Advertising (B.M.M) and I did not wanted to pursue career in Advertising since I felt I am not capable enough of handling the pressure related to erratic work life balance and I thought I am not a good fit for that job. I pursued a distance learning course in HR but that did not help me much in getting a job. I feel I have taken wrong decisions in life and it drives me more crazy.I am losing my confidence and hope in life. I am sick of constantly having to change my job every year. Please Help.

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It is clear from your writing that you have a great deal of resilience and determination. This is sometime referred to as grit – the ability to persevere when there are obstacles. You goal of a regular career is a good one and my encouragement now is not to try to find the perfect career, but allow yourself a while to experiment with a few different jobs. One of the biggest errors people make is trying to make a decision about their career when they have only had a few experiences. Think about what would be exciting for you to do and talk to people who work in that industry. Network with them. Take a course that interests you. You are looking for something that will be a draw— a pull, not a push. Begin your quest for something that will delight and excite you, This will help the struggle for a career that seems more like a quest or a calling. You are young and have some time now. Find out what inspires you.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

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Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Career and Personal Help. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 22, 2020, from
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