A; This sounds very difficult and I am sorry you are going through all of this. You boyfriend needs professional help and you cannot be the one to help him. The lying, sexual promiscuity, quitting his job, and the suicide attempt are all indications that he has some personal issues to attend to and isn’t in a position to be able to manage a relationship. As bad as he feels and as difficult as it is for you to accept, trying to have a relationship with him now is going to be difficult, if not impossible. I would strongly encourage you to seek counseling in learning how to be independent of him. The help you can provide your boyfriend is in taking good care of yourself, while encouraging him to do the same.
Wishing you patience and peace,
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Daniel J. Tomasulo, Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP is a recent graduate of the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania and works as Martin Seligman’s assistant instructor there. He is a licensed psychologist specializing in group psychotherapy and psychodrama and is the expert on group therapy for Psychology Today. He is the author of the highly acclaimed Confessions of a Former Child: A Therapist’s Memoir and was honored as Sharecare’s top 10 online influencers in the area of depression. Visit www.formerchild.com for more information. He also writes for Psych Central’s Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog on positive psychology.