Home » Broken Communication

Broken Communication

Asked by on with 1 answer:

I am 20, my love is 25. We have always been very happy together, and been described as ‘cut from the same cloth,’ and our relationship is very sacred and we protect it dearly.
Recently, he has encountered some serious problems (living situation, job etc.) that have taken a toll on him, and he has really shut himself off from me. Also, I am very easily irritated over insignificant things and lash out at him or brush him off as if I am not interested in him, when that’s not the case at all. Our relationship has always been more good than bad, but it seems like lately, it’s really falling apart. Our communication is very broken, and I would just really like to get back on the same page with him. We were once so happy. We’re planning our future together, and I don’t believe that we can enter our future if we can’t get through the present. Please shine some light on this problem. Thank you, so much.

Broken Communication

Answered by on -


Couples go through phases when they are closer and further apart. The research shows that it is being able to share your vulnerabilities with each other, celebrate each other’s accomplishments and share exciting and stimulating times together are the keys to a long and loving relationship. Job changes and living arrangements can throw off a couple’s rhythm. My encouragement is to assess your relationship along these dimensions. If the two of you can’t seem to correct it on your own you may want to try the find help tab at the top of the page to find a couples counselor near you.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Broken Communication

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

APA Reference
Tomasulo, D. (2018). Broken Communication. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 21, 2019, from
Scientifically Reviewed
Last updated: 8 May 2018
Last reviewed: By a member of our scientific advisory board on 8 May 2018
Published on Psych All rights reserved.