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I have been dating my boyfriend for a while now, he recently told me that he just started steroids; I don’t know how to deal with it. I have done my research and everything is coming back negative, for instance, it can ruin a relationship. I don’t know what to do. He told me to give it time and he won’t change, that is what I am worried about, him changing, his anger and the way he treats me. I don’t want to lose him but I am very worried about losing my boyfriend. What should I do? I haven’t been myself lately; I am a victim of rape as of December. It does not define who I am but I have also learned that it takes time to get over. I am trying really hard to be happy again.

Steroids and a Relationship

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You are right to be concerned. Your boyfriend has made a poor decision and he doesn’t understand the consequences. He is ignorant if he thinks he can manage the effects. I am sorry.

I strongly encourage you to take a firm stand on this in support of yourself. Nothing good can happen while he is using steroids. The most difficult cases I have had as a therapist have been dealing with the effects of steroid use.

While I wouldn’t go so far as issuing an ultimatum, I would begin broadening your support and spending more time with your friends and developing yourself. The worst part about steroids is that the user doesn’t see the changes that are alienating others until it is too late.

Protect yourself by keeping your expectations low for him to be able to manage this. I would recommend therapy for you. The find help tab at the top of the page will locate someone in your area.

The person you fell in love with is hidden now behind a cloud that, unfortunately, won’t go away until he stops using.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Steroids and a Relationship

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Steroids and a Relationship. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 24, 2019, from
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