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Husband’s Infidelity Causing Family Problems

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Recently, I found out that my husband was unfaithful. Upon finding out, with his permission, my little girl and I moved out of state for a month to my mother’s home so that I could have some space to think about things and try to determine the best situation for our family. I ended up agreeing to reconcile our marriage. Being from a divorced home myself, I do not want that for our little girl who is only 11 months old. My issue is now, my family wants nothing to do with my husband due to what he has done. My stepfather’s 70th birthday party is coming up in 2 months, and I wanted to go, but my husband wants to go also, and I’m not sure how to approach the situation between the 2. Thank you in advance for any advice that you can offer.

Husband’s Infidelity Causing Family Problems

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This is a relationship that your husband has to fix directly. You can’t patch this up by wishing your family would act differently. I would get out of the way. If this has any chance of reconciliation it will have to be between your husband and your family directly, not mediated by you. It’s not a team effort.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Husband’s Infidelity Causing Family Problems

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Husband’s Infidelity Causing Family Problems. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 25, 2019, from
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