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Parents Shout at Me

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My parents shout and me when I ask a question and my dad tells me to get lost and I go to my room and I sometimes cry. They shout orders at me and treat me like filth. My sister takes their side all the time and never listens to me and I have nobody to talk to, family. I have 2 close friends but I can’t tell them because it’s to hard and personal they wouldn’t understand.
They don’t even care if I cry and it’s always shouting at me. I don’t talk back and I speak in a calm voice but it’s still always shouting. Sometimes they hit me on the arm hard so there is a bruise left or sometimes hit me on the head so I get a headache.Therapy won’t be an option because this has been going on forever and it won’t help.
I sometimes feel like killing myself but I don’t. I feel very alone and that there is no way
out. What so I do?

Parents Shout at Me

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I am glad you are writing to us about how you feel. That is a very good start. You want to keep finding people who are safe to talk to about your feelings. Many times people think of hurting themselves, but don’t, and it is important to talk about those feelings with an adult.

At 12 years old the best place for you to bring your concerns is to a trusted teacher or school counselor. Being treated this way isn’t acceptable, and you need adults and friends who can help and support you. Start looking for safe adults in your school or where you worship for starters.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Parents Shout at Me

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Parents Shout at Me. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 26, 2019, from
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