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Confused on Sexuality

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I feel like I’m bisexual. But sometimes I’m not really entirely sure. I’ve had feelings for a girl before, same for a guy but not as strong as it was for this girl.
I’ve kissed a girl before, but never a guy. And I can see myself being with both (just not at the same time!)

-And also, I think about girls more than I do guys.
What’s not helpful in all of this is that EVERYONE in my family hates gays. They also ALWAYS say that people “Can’t be bisexual they can only like one gender and that’s the opposite gender.” And when they say stuff like this it really hurts :|

Confused on Sexuality

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From your email it says that you are still in high school. This is a good time to talk to the guidance counselors about your concerns. They are very familiar with these issues and can help you sort through the range in feelings and help put it into perspective. It can be very difficult to be alone with these confusing thoughts, but having someone to talk to about them will be helpful.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Confused on Sexuality

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Confused on Sexuality. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 24, 2019, from
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