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Loneliness, Depression, Wanting to be Alone

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I really need some help/advice. I used to be very outgoing and confident but over the past 3 years I have become withdrawn-I feel like I want to be alone but also get lonely, I want friends and social interaction but at the same time I dread the thought of it. I have a boyfriend who is great, he has a good job and is really good to me, I find myself sometimes being jealous of him, and wishing I could be more like him.

My Father was not a nice person and one day he went completely crazy and I had to leave home for my own safety, that seems to be when this started. I am scared I will see him again.

I have out on weight, and have a skin condition, which is not helping with my confidence. I worry about myself, I want to make my life better because its the opposite of what I thought it would be and I hate it but I can’t seem to find a way out.

Loneliness, Depression, Wanting to be Alone

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It sounds to me like there may be some things you would want to discuss with a therapist. The past with your father, the social isolation, the jealousy, alcohol snd domestic abuse may be working together toward creating a feeling of helplessness. My encouragement would be to begin sorting this through with a therapist. The find help tab at the top of the page will help.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Loneliness, Depression, Wanting to be Alone

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Loneliness, Depression, Wanting to be Alone. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 24, 2019, from
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