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My husband is in fear that I might call police on him again after having an argument. He wants to end the relationship so that he will feel safe. Last time I called the police was due to domestic violence and he was behind the bars for 1 night.

What can I do? Please help me because I am NOT planning/thinking of calling the police at all. Not over an argument.

My Husband Is Afraid

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Your husband’s fears are not necessarily a bad thing. You called the police because you were afraid and now he is. Obviously he has changed enough for you to allow him back, so rather than telling him not to worry, use his concern to deepen the relationship. Ask him if he would be willing to do a couples weekend, or see a couples counselor. With every couple I have worked with where there has been domestic violence, the lingering issues come back to haunt them. Couples therapy would be a good way to strengthen the relationship.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

My Husband Is Afraid

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). My Husband Is Afraid. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 24, 2019, from
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