Thanks for writing in for help. How incredibly painful to experience to have someone you’ve loved promise something and then go back on his promise. It sounds like this is just one of several betrayals in your life. Here are a few questions to ask yourself:
- Why was I attracted to someone whose life was financially unstable and who was living in fear?
- Were there any relationship warning signs in the beginning of the relationship that I didn’t want to see?
- Why was I so willing to get back together with him after he had broken my trust by refusing to to pay me back?
If you haven’t already done so, I suggest that you get some therapy to help you work on your earlier abuse experience so you can see warning signs in relationships more clearly. I know you’re concerned about not being able to trust again, but honestly, I am more concerned that you will continue to trust people who aren’t trustworthy and put yourself at risk for being hurt. Please find a therapist who can help you understand and resolve emotional and relationship patterns so you can be free to create healthy relationships. Thank you again for your courage and honesty, and for asking for help.
Take good care of yourself!