No one should have to endure what you have already! I am so very sorry that at the age of 14 that you have experienced so much pain in your life. No one has the right to treat you the way you have been treated.
I encourage you to talk to the guidance counselor at school about your situation. You may also want to talk to a trusted teacher as well.
You are obviously a thoughtful, sensitive young woman. If college is something you want to pursue you should set your sights there. Your dad sounds like he has a number of problems with his own thinking and behavior he has to deal with.
Every state has an agency devoted to protecting children. Here is a link to those agencies. You can call them and they can help you. You did the right thing by writing us here, you are not alone.