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Girlfriend wants space

On a break, girlfriend asked for space, won’t talk to me now but says she’s in love with me.

My girlfriend and I got in a fight about a little more then a week ago, over my jealousy issues. She said, that she needed space. Every day after that I would text or write her and she would respond with short answers. I would say I loved her and she would say it back, like she meant it. That I missed her she would say it back as well. Two days ago we spoke, she told me she couldn’t live without me and missed me desperately. The next day she didn’t talk to me. On Thursday I sent her a message, saying that I loved her but I would leave her alone until she was ready to talk about it. It’s been 3 days including today that we have not talked at all. Is the relationship over? Or does she truly just need some space right now? The way she said she loves me and needs me last time we spoke. Made it seem like we were even back together but then the next day she was a no show or contact. Its the first 3 days we have gone 0 contact. Please help? The mixed signals are confusing me.

Girlfriend wants space

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The first year if college is often the most difficult time for adjustment in relationships. I recommend that you give your girlfriend the space she is asking for and begin to develop some of your own interests and grow new friendships. This may not be the answer you are looking for, but to watch, wait, and hope for your girlfriend to reconnect leaves you too vulnerable for your own good.

If she wants to make the commitment to you then she has to struggle with her own issues without being persuaded by you. You can’t help her in this regard. But you can honor her and yourself by giving her the space she wants, and developing new interests and friends.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Girlfriend wants space

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

APA Reference
Tomasulo, D. (2011). Girlfriend wants space. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 16, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2011/09/10/girlfriend-wants-space/

 

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