Thanks for writing in regarding your little brother. His behavior does sound troubling so you are right to be concerned. Are you able to talk openly with your mother about your concerns for your brother? If not, I suggest that you talk with your mother to express your concerns and to ask how you can be supportive in her efforts to get him help. In the conversation, be sure to acknowledge what she is doing to help your brother.
While I can’t say how his premature birth has impacted your brother’s current behavior, I can say that early experiences help shape our development. You may want to inquire as to whether your brother has had a psychological or neuropsychological evaluation, and if not, suggest that to your mother.
You can directly help your brother by spending time with him and developing a positive relationship. Participate in activities that he enjoys and listen to him.Â You can also help by setting strong boundaries when his behavior is inappropriate or hurtful.
Take good care of you and yours!
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