I can hear how difficult this is for you and am very glad you have taken the time to write us.
As far as your reactions, he hasn’t given you enough of a reason to trust him. That is the reason you are feeling this way. I think the two of you would profit from couples therapy, particularly since it will be important for both of you to have better communication for your daughter. The above ”find help” tab can help you locate someone in your state.
If he is unwilling I would begin your own individual therapy. Having support as you try to cope with this will be very important.