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I talk like a baby when any older female is nice to me or shows love

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Ok, so my problem is that whenever an older female shows me any kind of love or affection I talk like a baby. it is usually with my aunty whom I love very much. I don’t know why I do it and at when I start doing it I don’t realize until half way through and then I am embarrassed. my father abused me as a child but the main hurt in my life comes from my mother hating me. she has constantly put me down over the years and has never shown me any love whatsoever. I never got a hug from her even though she hugged and showed love to all my siblings. I do not understand why the woman hates me and is so hateful to me as it was not my fault that I was born. she threw me out of the house when I was 15 and we have never spoken since. back then it did not bother me but now I feel alone. I want to stop talking like a baby to those who are loving towards me as it is quite a silly thing to do. any help with this I would be grateful. thanks

I talk like a baby when any older female is nice to me or shows love

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Without getting all psychoanalytic about this, the most direct way to make the transition is to practice saying a clear and simple thank you. No elaboration, no other reaction, just a simple thank you to acknowledge the kindness.

At the same time I would begin individual therapy to begin coping with the poor mothering you received. (The find help tab at the top of the page will help you find someone in your area.). By approaching the issue from both ends you will gain a practical manner of dealing with it, and understand the origin of the problem through working with the therapist.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I talk like a baby when any older female is nice to me or shows love

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). I talk like a baby when any older female is nice to me or shows love. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 21, 2019, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2011/07/09/i-talk-like-a-baby-when-any-older-female-is-nice-to-me-or-shows-love/
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