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I think you need to talk to your school’s guidance counselor to start sorting this through. A lot of your family members have significant problems and the support you will need for change comes from other people. Your school guidance counselor can help. Also, because of your mom’s drinking you may want to consider Alateen, a support group for teenagers whose parents have drinking problems. They should have groups nearby where you live, as well as online support.