I rarely tell people what they should do but I’m making an exception in this case. From what you are reporting, you are not safe. Your boyfriend is irrationally jealous and angry. He is isolating you and scaring you. He isn’t interested in taking responsibility for his behavior or for improving your relationship. I’m worried for you and for your children’s safety. If you can’t think of yourself, think of your kids. This is a terrible model for what a loving relationship between partners should be.
There is a woman’s shelter in your city. Office: (910) 323-4187 Hotline: (910) 323 4187. Call the hotline to get support and advice. Do not use your cell phone to make the call. Do not use your home computer to look up information. If your boyfriend is as dangerous as I think he is and he discovers that you are looking for help, he could put his hands on you again. Instead, take the kids to your local library and make your calls from there.
You made an important first step by writing to us here at PsychCentral. Now take the next step and get local support. You and your children deserve to have a safe and loving home.
I wish you well.