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Boyfriend is a Transvestite!

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I am not a sexually active teenager, although I am not against it. I have just gotten a new boyfriend. I have known him since about September or October, and we flirted a little. More recently we became closer and now we are dating. He says he loves me but I just think that’s the male hormones going on.

Anyway my main point is he means something to me and he has recently confided in me. He has told me he is a transvestite. I will not judge him for I care for him but I did find the subject a little different and awkward. I just wanted a little guideline or advice on how to deal with him. He has told me he is completely heterosexual. I just would like advice and to know how this could possible affect our relationship from that of a ‘normal’ one. Thanks

Boyfriend is a Transvestite!

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Thank you for bringing the question here. You state your age as 15 so you are just beginning to explore your feelings of attraction. The main work here is for you to start understanding what feelings are emerging inside of you, and to find ways to express, cope with, or explore those feelings.

Finding the subject and conversation awkward is something that you will want to talk about directly with your boyfriend. You want to have a relationship where you can be yourself, and not feel inhibited by the other person’s behavior. In other words, stay right with your feelings and talk to him about them. What you are ultimately looking to do is understand who you are first, and then you can understand more about who you are in the relationship. To better know about what he is into you may want to educate yourself about people who engage in the fetish of cross-dressing.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Boyfriend is a Transvestite!

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Boyfriend is a Transvestite!. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 18, 2019, from
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