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I can’t concentrate at school since I have a boyfriend

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I am a PhD student where I need to study for 15 hours a day. I got into a relationship 7 months back and since then I am not able to concentrate on my studies. I tend to spend time with him all the time. I tend to call his friends for dinner, watch movies etc. just to be with him. I work for sometime when it is really urgent. I even got lower grades due to this. He is a new student in my university so he does not have a job yet and hence he is free too to spend time with me.

What should I be doing to get back my concentration and motivation to work? How much time I should be spending with him? Do you know a way where I can be with him and also be able to study? Thank you so much.

I can’t concentrate at school since I have a boyfriend

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“Love and work… work and love, that’s all there is.”
Sigmund Freud

Thanks for writing us here at Psychcentral and asking about balance in your life. Part of managing yourself in an intimate relationship is to be able to set limits. An all-or-nothing relationship typically doesn’t last long. There needs to be a “you” so there can be an “us.”

Get your work done. Part of graduate school is learning how to handle much higher levels of responsibility in the world and in your life. Prioritize your to-do list and don’t make it all work or all relationship. The truth is you will need to do this after you get your degree as well. Now is the time to start managing your love and work life.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I can’t concentrate at school since I have a boyfriend

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). I can’t concentrate at school since I have a boyfriend. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 21, 2019, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2011/01/14/i-cant-concentrate-at-school-since-i-have-a-boyfriend/
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