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Why do I want bad things to happen?

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For as long as I can remember, I have always wanted something bad to happen. I’ve especially always wanted a home invasion to happen in my house (I know thats really random) because I think that would be pretty exciting. I’ve always wanted to be in a near death situation and when I was younger and was in a car, I would always hope that we would crash.

Is there any reason why I want these things to happen?

Why do I want bad things to happen?

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I appreciate you asking this question. Since you list your age as 16 I can imagine how difficult it is to have these thoughts. I can’t know for sure because there is too little information, but the fact that there is a theme of potential harm to you is a key factor. There are many things that can cause this type of ideation. Often it is because there was an unsafe experience that happened earlier in a person’s life that was unresolved. My encouragement is for you to talk to a counselor at school and tell them about these thoughts. They are in a good position to help you with it.

You took a big step by talking about it to us. Now I would find someone who can help you from here.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Why do I want bad things to happen?

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Why do I want bad things to happen?. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 21, 2019, from
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