I discovered that the man I have been seeing is married with two kids. I have known this man for over 2 years and had no idea that he was married. We have been seeing each other for 8 months and he has made future plans for us. I have recently looked him up on white pages, wondered about someone listed in the household, googled her, and discovered that they are married with two children. Why would he carry on a well thought out lie to me and do this to his wife? When confronted, he said it was his twin brother, which I absolutely didn’t believe.BF is married with two kids
BF is married with two kids
The twin brother story is easy to check out: Ask to see them together! Seriously. This must be devastating. Someone in your situation often feels disoriented in two ways: First, there is the betrayal by the boyfirend. Then there’s wondering how you could be so completely fooled for so long. Both are very, very hard to deal with.
I don’t know why this man attempted to live a double life. I do know that it is pointless for you to try to sort it out so that you can stay with him. It’s unlikely that you will ever trust him enough to relax into the relationship – even if he does leave the wife to be with you. A man who is so casual about leaving his children now is likely to do it again. And it’s very hard to know when a liar is ever telling the truth.
I’m relieved that you’ve only wasted 8 months of your time with this guy. Learn what you can from the experience and be more cautious the next time around. At 25, you have plenty of time to find someone who is worth your love and caring.
I wish you well.