There’s something about turning 60 that makes a lot of people sit back and take stock. Some friends or acquaintances may be getting sick, even dying, which lends reality to the limits of our time. At 60, most people still have vitality and a good working mind but we don’t know when we’ll lose them. It isn’t as depressing as it sounds. It’s also motivating. It’s time to either come to terms with who we are or to make a push for change.
Those are your choices as well. You have spent your life as a generalist. You like a lot of things. You may have mastered none but you explored many, many interests and activities. One way to think about yourself is, in fact, complete. You’ve let yourself taste many things even though you never went for the whole meal. It’s a reasonable choice. You don’t need to frame it as a deficiency.
On the other hand, maybe there is a restlessness in you at this point. Perhaps you’d like to see what you’re really made of in terms of being able to master something. Now’s the time to try that out. You might find it instructive to read “Outliers: The Story of Success” by Malcolm Gladwell. The book is a series of essays about how some people (some well-known, others not) became enormously successful in what they do.
If you want to complete something, I suggest you follow your passion and choose one thing. It could be finishing your house, or mastering the piano, or even working on your personality. Put real effort into it for a week and see how it feels. If you like it, give it another week. By giving yourself a new decision point at the end of each week, you will give yourself the chance to evaluate whether it is working for you and what, if any, adjustments you want to make.
Whether you live out your life as a generalist or as a master of something more narrow is a choice, not necessarily a problem. I hope you can find peace in whichever direction you want to go.
I wish you well.