I cannot say for certain whether you have a mental health disorder but your symptoms are concerning. Some of what you may be experiencing could be depression or a difficult adjustment related to moving. As you noted, your symptoms emerged after you arrived in North Carolina. That’s likely not a coincidence. You’ve been drifting away from family, finding it difficult to make friends and are less able to concentrate on school and extracurricular activities. Other concerning behaviors include over-exercising. By itself, that symptom is not enough to constitute an eating disorder diagnosis but coupled with your ever-increasing dissatisfaction with your body, it could be an early warning sign of an eating disorder. The strong anxiety that you feel when you worry about making your bed is not enough to warrant an OCD diagnosis but could indicate early stages of the disorder.
Sometimes individuals feel compelled to engage in OCD-like behavior when they feel as though their life is out of control. Engaging in particular behaviors may give them a sense of power and control that they can’t feel in other ways. This might apply to your situation.
The move likely triggered your symptoms. If I were working with you in person, I would want to explore the details associated with the move and how it has affected you. Did you want to move? What were the circumstances of moving? Did you leave behind friends that you miss? It is difficult to transition into a new neighborhood and a new school. For some people, it’s a complete uprooting of their lives. Some individuals adjust better than others but without support, reassurance or guidance, moving can be a very difficult challenge for everyone.
It would be a very wise idea for you to speak with your parents about your symptoms. All of the symptoms you have described are treatable. You could benefit from talk therapy, support and guidance about how to deal with your feelings associated with the move. If you had someone to talk with who could help you adapt to your new life situation, your symptoms would likely decrease and perhaps be eliminated. If you feel uncomfortable speaking to your parents then I would encourage you to speak to a family friend or the school counselor about helping you access treatment. Your parents may be able to speak to your primary care physician or pediatrician about a referral to a therapist.
You could also look at the Psychology Today website and search for a therapist in your area. If you found one who you think you might like to meet, based on their website description, then you could ask your parents to call the therapist on your behalf. I wish you the best of luck. Thank you for writing.