“I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.”
This quote by Roy Croft ushers in what I think is happening. Loving an inanimate object is a common developmental tool often employed in evolving loving feelings. We see children playing with dolls, stuffed animals, dollhouses, figurines, etc. A cathexis (attachment or bonding energy) to love objects focuses our affection and may be either a substitute, displacement, or symbol of longing for what we want in our lives. What seems clear here is that you have a lot of love to give. In the past you have felt good about your giving, but what seems to have happened now is that you don’t feel the same because they are taking up too much of your energy and not giving back.
You have a boyfriend, and friends on Facebook. The development of more interpersonal connections with people that make you feel good is the direction you want to go. The objects and virtual pets are likely stepping-stones you needed to form more intimate relations. As you surround yourself with people that fill you up, your need for the objects is likely to diminish.
Think about holding on to one or two of your entourage, then consider gifting some of your furry friends to a children’s shelter. This may help others experience the good feelings that happened for you, and you may be able to let your objects of affection go — knowing that they will continue to be loved.
Wishing you patience and peace,