I’m guessing that it was hard to write all this down. It must have been hard to put all of that in one place. Assuming that you are seeing things clearly, your dad’s behavior is neglect. You didn’t mention whether or not you’ve told your mother about what is going on or why you and your brother haven’t moved in with her. If she isn’t capable of caring for you or isn’t willing to do so, the two of you need outside help.
In your state, the Division of Youth and Family Services is the agency that can help parents do a better job. You can either call them yourself or you can ask your school counselor, your doctor, or any trusted adult to call them for you. The report can be anonymous. Here is the link to DYFS.
Please don’t hesitate to use this resource if you need to. It sounds like your dad has big problems of his own that get in the way of his ability to take care of you kids. It may be that he simply can’t do it. No kid should be living in garbage. And you need the followup to your hospitalization.
In answer to your last question: Different people respond differently to different medications. If your doctor advised that medication would help you stabilize, it’s important that you work together to find the right one for you. Sometimes it takes trying a few medicines to get it right. Keep track of your reaction and give your doctor an accurate report about how it’s going. Used well, medication can give people a great deal of relief with minimal side effects.
You don’t have to handle this alone. The social workers at DYFS are there to help. If you don’t feel ready or able to call them in just yet, please do continue to use the hotlines for support. The Boys and Girls Town Hotline is especially helpful for teens. Their number is 800-448-3000.
I wish you well.