Nothing – absolutely nothing – you did warranted a physical attack! I don’t understand how your husband can deny that he hurt you when you have broken ribs and a separated shoulder. Does he think you made that up too? I’m very, very sorry that you are disappointed to find that the man you married is not who you thought he was. And I’m also very sorry for this man who is so hurt and out of touch with himself that he terribly hurt someone he loves. Whether or not the marriage can be saved, the two of you need some major help right now.
For your husband: Your city has many anger management therapists and classes available. If he loves you and wants to make your marriage work, he needs to take advantage of what is offered. Otherwise, he may hurt you again and may find himself once again in legal trouble. However loving and wonderful he may be in the good times, he won’t be able to control himself when he feels that he is possibly being betrayed yet again. Sadly, he is so sensitive around this issue, it doesn’t take much to make him distrustful and violent.
For you: It’s not true that you have no one to go to. There are many, many qualified therapists in your community. There are pastors and rabbis. And there is a women’s center. Call the Safe Nest for Women at 702-646-4981 and see if they have services that would be helpful. In addition, you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233. Counselors are available 24/7 to talk with women in situations much like your own. They can also refer you to local resources. If you are afraid for your safety, please use a computer or phone at your library or at a friend’s house to contact any of these services. Some men get violent if their wife reaches out for help.
Please trust what your body is telling you. You’ve lost 20 pounds in a month. Clearly this situation is dangerous to your health. Get the support you need to safely separate so you both can get the help you need.
I wish you both well.