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Do I run away to make a point?

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I come from a reasonably privalleged family. Having gone to private school for junior education. Now in a state school,(preferd it). I feel like running away, but I don’t know if I’ve got a good enough reason to. My older brother and my sister have always been great at english, maths and general subjects. I feel like I’m being left out by my parents because they always pay more of their attention to them and I’m let down. I feel depressed all the time at school and at home. I started writing a suicide note but my sister caught me and ripped it up. We agreed not to tell mum and dad. How can I get myself some more space!? Do I run away for a few days to make a point? Please help.

Do I run away to make a point?

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I’m sorry you’re feeling so left out and alone in your family. But the only point that running away would make is that you’re immature. I don’t think that’s the message you want to send.

There are many reasons that parents seem to favor some kids over others. Sometimes it’s because they don’t know what to say to a child they think is having trouble. Sometimes it’s the opposite and parents focus on the kids they think need more support, not realizing that the left out kid is then left wondering what she did wrong. Without talking openly with your parents, you don’t know if they are aware that you are feeling depressed or if they think they have a good reason for how they are handling their different children.

The mature thing to do is to ask to talk with your parents privately and to politely and calmly explain to them how you feel. If you don’t think you can keep yourself together in a conversation, you can organize your thoughts by writing a letter. Don’t send it. Read it to them as a way to open a discussion. Try not to accuse or blame. Accusations only make people defensive. Instead, just tell them that you want to be close to them and would like some help knowing what you need to do to make that happen. You may be surprised by what you find out.

I wish you well.
Dr. Marie

Do I run away to make a point?

Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker

Dr. Marie is licensed as both a psychologist and marriage and family counselor. She specializes in couples and family therapy and parent education. Follow her on Facebook or Twitter.

APA Reference
Hartwell-Walker, D. (2018). Do I run away to make a point?. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 23, 2019, from
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