Some people just seem to be born into the wrong family. This is a story as old as time. Remember the children’s story of the “Ugly Duckling”? A swan egg was put into a duck’s nest. Naturally the baby swan didn’t look or act like the baby ducks so he was picked on and teased and bullied. Then he grew up to be a beautiful and graceful swan. My guess is that he also grew to be sensitive to others’ pain.
So, my “ugly duckling” friend, how are we going to help you make the passage to a beautiful adulthood? I do have a few ideas since I’ve known dozens of kids like you over the years.
The first thing to do is to find an interest outside of school that will introduce you to a new pool of people. Since you are good at video games and think you could compete, why not try to find a club of kids (or make one) who share your interest? If you like computers, maybe you can find others who would like to know how to do cool stuff with electronics too. (Even Bill Gates started as a high school kid, exploring what a computer can do.)
Then – stop caring so much about whether your parents get it about school and grades and your interests in college. Start looking at college websites and set a goal for yourself. Talk to your guidance department about it. Get the best grades you can and figure out how to apply for scholarships. An education can set you free.
Next step? Stop fighting with your folks. You can’t make swans out of ducks. They can’t make a duck out of a swan. Work on accepting your family for who they are. Eventually, you may be able to get to a place of mutual respect. Be as mature as you know how to be and it will invite the same. Clean your room because an orderly environment creates an orderly mind. Focus on what you need to do to be successful in life.
It’s too bad that you and the rest of your family don’t fit easily together. But you can make it work for you. By taking charge of your life, you will learn the skills you need to be a successful leader in whatever you decide to do.
I wish you well.