You have asked some very important questions about your therapy. In your current situation you are feeling uncomfortable with the line of questioning from your therapist. He may be asking these questions to determine information about your situation so that he can best advise you about how to proceed. It’s helpful and necessary for the therapist to know all of the details about a client’s particular issue. That may be what he is trying to accomplish with his questions regarding the rape.
Keep in mind that therapy is usually not a comfortable process. There will usually be times when the things discussed in therapy are unpleasant. That is the nature of therapy. People are attempting to deal with very difficult and complicated personal issues. Ultimately, the goal is to heal but the process of getting to that point can be emotionally painful. That might account for your negative feelings.
It’s important that you report your uncomfortable feelings and experiences to your therapist. He needs to know this information. Maybe there are some therapists who would be more attuned to your feelings or perhaps not. It’s your job to make him aware of your feelings. It is important to therapy and it may be important for the healing process. You need to be fully honest with him. You may also want to ask him if he would change his line of questioning or at least put off his questions about the rape until you feel comfortable providing answers. Again, this requires that you have an honest and open conversation about how you’re feeling.
As I mentioned above, the best thing to do is to be honest with your therapist, but if you feel you can’t then consider another therapist. You seem to like and trust the university counseling center therapist. She may be able to refer you to a different counselor. Consider talking to her about your dilemma. She may be able to advise you about how to handle the situation. You can also ask her if she would be willing to see you for a few sessions. I understand that the university counselors cannot see their students on a long-term basis but a few booster sessions with her might be very helpful. Thank you for your question.