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When i was 3 years old my uncle molested me. i blocked it out most of my life and had very little to do with him when i was younger. when i was 15 my parents got devoriced and my uncle (my mothers younger brother) started to come over the house more. he was very protective of me and allwase was with me. i started to have flash backs alot but i just ignored them. then my mother and my sister and i moved i had to go to a new school and my parets devorese was a very messy one. on top of it i was not aloude to see or talk to my dads family or my old religon. the only person i was realy aloud to hang out with was my uncle hes about 12 years older than me. i cut my self a few times becouse i had memories come back. i went to a dr. and they said i have deprestion and that i dissacociate my self from reality sometimes also. i stopedcutting and i stoped dissacociateing myself for sometime. about a year and half. then i begain getting invovled with drugs and sex. i stoped all that and i now live with my dad. and have nothing to do with my mom and uncle. i didnt have any flash backs tell about a month ago and now there comming back. i want to know what i should do and if me getting involved with drugs and sex had alot to do with being molested.also i think about my uncle alot, and when he was in my life i allwase wanted to be with him and no one els. dose that have to do with my past with my uncle also?

Flashbacks and Molestation

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You’re likely experiencing these symptoms because you’ve never properly dealt with the abuse. You’ve blocked these memories from your life for a very long time. Unfortunately, your flashbacks have increased and intensified. You can only block these memories for so long and then, as you are currently experiencing, they’ll become more intense and frequent, to the point where you have no choice but to address them. I think you’re at that point. No longer can you ignore these memories.

The best way to handle this situation is to consider therapy. If you do choose to attend therapy find a therapist who specializes in helping individuals who have experienced sexual abuse or trauma.

In the meantime, remind yourself that these are flashbacks and not your current reality. Tell yourself that you’ve survived the worst of his abuse and it is now over. No longer do you have to be a victim to your uncle. When the flashbacks occur you can also try a technique called grounding. Grounding means that you do something physical to bring yourself out of the flashbacks such as stomping your feet or waving your arms. It would also be helpful if you considered finding some form of support either through friends or family or joining a survivor’s support group.

As for whether or not getting involved with “drugs and sex” led to you to being molested, the answer is no. Based on your letter you were molested when you were three years old. I don’t see how your involvement with drugs or sex is related to you being molested as a very young child. Perhaps you left some details of the abuse out of your letter and I’m not making the connection. The bottom line is that you were molested by your uncle. None of it was your fault nor did you bring it on yourself. What he did to you was abuse and it was wrong. He took advantage of you. What he did was also illegal. He could go to jail for abusing you. Your parents should be aware of what he did to you and so should the police. I hope this helps.

Flashbacks and Molestation

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and Assistant Professor of Social Work and Forensics with extensive experience in the field of mental health. She works in private practice with adults, adolescents and families. Kristina has worked in a large array of settings including community mental health, college counseling and university research centers.

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Randle, K. (2018). Flashbacks and Molestation. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 25, 2019, from
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