Hello and thanks for your question:
You know, it sounds like you may have had this feeling of rejection all along, meaning that you may not have “fit in” even when you were in grade school. The reason I ask about this is because we carry this kind of problem with us throughout life unless we get some professional help. While you are still very young and not yet college age, if you talk to a therapist who specializes in relationship issues, they might be able to identify what you are doing that interferes with your connecting with girls in the way that you want. Students your age often have a very difficult time relating, and girls tend to be hung up in cliques and doing their own thing, but then, so do guys.
Relationships are not so very mysterious. Men have problems understanding women and women struggle to understand men. All you need is a good teacher to help you decipher what girls want. They like a guy who cares about them and CAN LISTEN to what they have to say. When they have problems, they don’t want you to fix them, but to listen and offer support. If you remember this little recipe you will probably do better with them.
First, however, find a therapist who can figure out your roadblocks. You can find one in your area at Psychology Today.
Best of luck,
Dr. Diana Walcutt