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Could I Have Narcissistic PD?

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Q. Could it be NPD? I am a Volunteer teaching English in China. I left my job as a teacher in America for 4 years before coming. I have been here for 16 months now.

I have had great difficulties coping with the attitudes of my students. I feel like they are unwilling to give me positive feedback and, in fact, I have received nothing but negative feedback about my teaching methods and the results of such methods. I find excuses about how to justify these complaints. I grow defensive and angry whenever students tell me something that I do “wrong.”

This previous example is only one issue, and there have been others related to excessive caffeine consumption and the idea that I am more “special” than everyone else. What an idea, right!?

Ultimately I feel that I am not really very good at anything. I went online to try and find out what was going on (a convenient place, I know!) and discovered that I match 6 or 7 of the 10 signs for someone with NPD. I read extensively about this and every day I grow more convinced that many of my behaviors over the past 6-7 years seem to fall in line with this explanation. I also read that if I do have this problem, it is unlikely that I will seek help.

I am involved with a special teaching program here in China. If I seek help for this, or general psychiatric support, it is likely that I will be removed from the program and sent home. Should I seek help now, or wait until I am finished with the program in 6 or 8 months? Leaving now would mean leaving my friends and probably not seeing many of them again.

Could I Have Narcissistic PD?

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Little of what you wrote leads me to believe that you have a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) but a short letter over the Internet would not be sufficient for an accurate diagnosis. I know that you were not requesting a diagnosis but I just wanted to be clear that you could have NPD even though it does not seem like it from your letter.

You mentioned that you do not like being criticized. You also said that you find justifications for the criticism you receive and believe that those who are critical of you are wrong and you are correct. Those may be symptoms of NPD but there are people who do not like being criticized and do not have NPD.

Being criticized, for some people, is emotionally painful. This is primarily because they take the criticism from others very personally. Some people confuse a criticism of their actions with a criticism of their character. They seem to equate criticism with the idea that they are a bad person. Thus when they are criticized it’s insulting and a “blow” to their ego and overall self-image. This may be how you are taking the criticism you have received.

It could also be that you are correct and the others who have criticized you are wrong. In this case, your justifications would be correct.

If you are hypersensitive to criticism and you judge that the criticism is justified, then your goal would be to try to not take it so personally. The challenge would be realizing that others can be critical of your actions but that does not mean they think you are fundamentally an inferior or bad person.

You also mentioned you are engaged in teaching in China. Could it be that the cultural differences account for the criticism (i.e. your messages are misinterpreted or vice versa)?

In summation, there are several possible explanations for this problem. You are misinterpreting the criticism that you are receiving and you are hypersensitive to being criticized or you are being misinterpreted and the criticism that you are receiving is not warranted. Whether or not you have NPD is something you will have to have assessed by a trained mental health professional.

As for whether or not you should seek help, you should if you feel that the problem you wrote about continues to bother you or if you having difficulty knowing if the criticism is warranted. An objective opinion could be very helpful. You should also seek help if you find that this problem inhibits your psychological growth and causes you emotional distress. Thanks for your question.

Could I Have Narcissistic PD?

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and Assistant Professor of Social Work and Forensics with extensive experience in the field of mental health. She works in private practice with adults, adolescents and families. Kristina has worked in a large array of settings including community mental health, college counseling and university research centers.

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Randle, K. (2018). Could I Have Narcissistic PD?. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 19, 2019, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2008/10/27/could-i-have-narcissistic-pd/
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