The way your boyfriend is treating you is not about love. It’s about control and emotional blackmail. You are right to want out of the relationship. I’m sorry that his parents aren’t more helpful. They are probably feeling helpless to help him at this point. And I’m very, very sorry that counseling didn’t work out for you. You certainly need some support and some practical help.
I found a website called “Reach Out” that is based in Australia. Go to http://au.reachout.com/
I copied this from the website:
“Reach Out! is an initiative of the Inspire Foundation (www.inspire.org.au). The mission of the Inspire Foundation is to create opportunities for young people aged 16-25 to change their world. By “their world”, we mean whatever is real for them. This could be struggling with depression or suicidal thoughts, wanting to do something for their local community or simply experiencing new ways to learn and grow. Anonymous and available 24 hours a day, Reach Out! serves young people, in particular those who are geographically or socially isolated, who may not be comfortable seeking professional help, or who are unsure about where to find the help they need in their community. ” They have a helpline especially for teens at 131 114. Please call them for advice.
Another resource for you is the Suicide and Mental Health Association International. Their lifeline in Australia is 1800 198 313. (I’m sorry I don’t have a way to call these numbers to check them out for you. I can only encourage you to give them a try.)
Meanwhile — I want you to know that you are not responsible for your boyfriend’s life. I know that may seem easy for me to say. I’m not watching him be in such pain. I’m not listening to his threats. But it really is true. He is responsible for the decisions he makes, no matter how hard he tries to throw that responsibility on to you. Do some research and find lifelines he can call. Then hand him those phone numbers and tell him that you certainly hope he will take care of himself but you can’t love him more than he loves himself. Then please, please take care of yourself. You need to do your own personal work and become a more stable person so that you can someday make the kind of loving relationship you deserve.
I wish you well.