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Denial of drinking.

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Q: My husband lies to me about where he is during the day. I have hired someone to follow him at random times to make sure. Sure enough, when he is telling me he is at meetings, car wash, jobsite, he is at a bar. In his job his ‘time is his own’. I realize that he has a drinking problem. I can’t remember the last day that he didn’t have a drink. He also has a heart condition & takes medication. The medication on top of the alcohol make him fall asleep very early in the evening. I know I have my proof to leave him, but this is a situation that has gone on – off & on for many years. Do I continue to turn my head & ignore it or at 45 do I finally put my foot down.

Denial of drinking.

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Sounds like you have serious problems and you need to decide what matters most to you. You did not say whether or not you have confronted your husband about his problem or tried to get him help. If you have done this and he refused, then I’d say it’s time to leave. If you have only been gathering evidence and have not confronted him or set down your “bottom lines” it is time to do an intervention and see what he is willing to do to change. If you haven’t attended an Al-Anon meeting I highly recommend that you do this soon. You can find information on the meetings online or by calling the local AA (Alcoholic Anonymous) chapter. I wish you and your husband luck.

Denial of drinking.

Holly Counts, Psy.D.

Dr. Holly Counts is a licensed Clinical Psychologist. She utilizes a mind, body and spirit approach to healing. Dr. Counts received her Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Wright State University and her Masters and Doctoral degrees in Clinical Psychology from Nova Southeastern University. Dr. Counts has worked in a variety of settings and has specialized in trauma and abuse, relationship issues, health psychology, women’s issues, adolescence, GLBT, life transitions and grief counseling. She has specialty training in guided imagery, EMDR, EFT, hypnosis and using intuition to heal. Her current passion involves integrating holistic and alternative approaches to health and healing with psychology.

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Counts, H. (2018). Denial of drinking.. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 23, 2019, from
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