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Is this incest or a non-event?

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Q. When I was younger (about 10 or 11) me and my younger brother (7, 8 (can’t remember the exact age) were messing about wrestling when I got an erection. Now at this age I didn’t know what was happening and my younger brother asked what it was. I showed him and he showed me his penis. We also touched each other once. Nothing sexual happened, we didn’t do anything however lately (last few weeks) I feel strange and horrible and guilty whilst thinking about it… This was the only encounter and now at my age I know it’s wrong. I’m wondering does this make me weird as I didn’t know what was going on. I just feel weird about the issue and would like to know if it’s just curiosity on why we did it? And should I just forget about it?

Is this incest or a non-event?

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I do not think there was any more going on in the situation you described than curiosity. I do not think anything out of the ordinary occurred. I have heard many stories very similar to this making it a fairly normal occurrence. To answer your question precisely, you should just forget about it; this was not an act of incest in any form. Take care.

Is this incest or a non-event?

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and Assistant Professor of Social Work and Forensics with extensive experience in the field of mental health. She works in private practice with adults, adolescents and families. Kristina has worked in a large array of settings including community mental health, college counseling and university research centers.

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Randle, K. (2018). Is this incest or a non-event?. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 21, 2019, from
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