Romantic Attachment Quiz

What’s your style of romantic attachment? Find out now!


Instructions: This quiz is designed to help give you some insight into your style of romantic attachment. It consists of three parts: two sets of 20 statements describing feelings in a romantic relationship, and then a single choice about your attitude toward romantic relationships. For each item, indicate how much you agree or disagree with the statement. This takes most people about 5-10 minutes to complete. Take your time and answer truthfully for the most accurate results.


I am a year old / /

1. I can be devastated if a romantic partner disapproves of me.

2. I get more anxious and concerned when I am not in a relationship.

3. I have a hard time when my partner wants to spend time alone.

4. I often need to be reassured by my romantic partner that I am truly loved.

5. If my partner is not around as much as I would like, I tend to get anxious and irritable.

6. If my romantic partner is not available when I need her/him, I can easily get very frustrated.

7. My partners often don’t want to get as close as I would like.

8. I worry about abandonment by my partner.

9. I get concerned a lot about losing romantic partners.

10. I get very concerned that my romantic partner doesn’t love me enough.

11. I worry a lot about romantic relationships.

12. I often worry that my romantic partner’s feelings aren’t as deep for me and mine are for her/him/them.

13. I don’t often worry about being abandoned by romantic partners.

14. I am usually secure in feeling that a romantic partner cares for me.

15. I get very angry and distressed when I am unsuccessful in getting my partner to show interest in me.

16. I fear that romantic partners won’t love me as much as I love them.

17. I find that I want to merge deeply with romantic partners, but this can scare them.

18. I get anxious when I think about being without a partner.

19. I have sometimes felt that I was pushing a partner to show more feeling and closeness than she or he wanted.

20. Sometimes in the past, I think my desire to be very close has frightened off romantic partners.



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Psych Central Research Team

Psych Central quizzes are developed by Dr. John M. Grohol, Psy.D. in conjunction with other psychological researchers, based upon scientific studies and/or the official diagnostic criteria for a disorder. Dr. Grohol is a published researcher, author, and mental health expert, and he currently sits on the scientific board of Computers in Human Behavior. Learn more about how we develop our psychological tests.

APA Reference
Research Team, P. (2020). Romantic Attachment Quiz. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 26, 2020, from


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Last updated: 29 Jul 2020
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 29 Jul 2020
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