We learned what the term 'resilience' means and what features a resilient mindset incorporates in Part 1. Here in Part 2 I will discuss how to develop a positive, more resilient mindset or attitude.
Strategies in Developing a Resilient Mindset
- Make connections and develop a support system.
- Be empathic.
- Communicate effectively: active listening and validation.
- Follow your own advice you have given to others. Walk the talk.
- Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems.
- Deal effectively with mistakes.
- Accept that change is part of living.
- Establish goals, move towards them, and build on 'successes'.
- Take decisive actions.
- Look for opportunities for self-discovery.
- Nurture a positive view of yourself.
- Keep things in perspective.
- Maintain an optimistic outlook.
- Take care of yourself.
- Accept yourself and others.
- Change the words of life: re-writing your negative scripts.
- Develop self-discipline and self-control.
- Maintain a resilient lifestyle.
The list may be long and seems overwhelming, but with practice and the application of one or more at a time, it will get easier, and the positive aspects will eventually replace the negative attitudes of your current mindset.
That said, we all have done many of the things that are on the list at some time or another. For example, think of a time when you really understood what a person was saying. Perhaps you even 'felt' for the person, sympathize with him or her. That is being empathic.
In Part 3, the strategies will be discussed more in-depth.
"Resilience to Stress"; CME Texas Medical Association
"The Power of Resilience: Achieving Balance, Confidence, and Personal Strength in Your Life"; Robert Brooks, Ph.D. and Sam Goldstein, Ph.D; The McGraw-Hill Companies, 2003.
'The Road to Resilience" Brochure by American Psychological Association and Discovery Health Channel.
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 28 Apr 2005
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