New research by Historian Dr Rebecca Earle from the University of Warwick charts love letters from the 16th -18th centuries to reveal that over 300 years ago men commonly used flowery, romantic words to express emotions, and that the emotionally open 'New Man' is not so new. Her research also suggests that 16th century Spaniards were more romantic than their American or English contemporaries.
The study of 303 letters entitled "Letters and Love in Colonial Spanish America" charts the language of love used by Spanish men resident in the Indies, who emigrated to Spanish America.
In 18th century Mexico, husbands used a range of submissive images in their correspondence. They described themselves as servants or slaves ready to follow their mistress's every request. Mexican lovers signed themselves 'your slave ' or 'your servant'.
The language of love used by men in the 18th century and the abject denial of male power in the face of female resistance overtly challenges contemporary images of Mexico as a land of macho men uninterested in romance.
Men expressed emotional powerlessness felt in the face of a lover's disdain: 'My heart has been destroyed in my bosom', 'with these delays and bad moments, I suffer unimaginable torments thinking that I will lose my jewel', 'my darling, I do not continue writing because my sighs and tears do not permit me'. By describing themselves as weak victims of female power, men created accounts of romantic power that reversed their actual economic and social superiority.
Dr Rebecca Earle, from the University of Warwick, said: "Just as contemporary British men are supposed to express emotions and spend time building relationships, 18th century Spanish American men seemed to believe their love letters should express their emotional state and needs. In fact, a tendency towards self-abasement is a strong undercurrent in many of the letters."
In the 18th century the language of Hispanic love letters became increasingly inflated. Husbands developed new vocabularies to express their emotions. It was no longer sufficient to end a letter 'your husband who loves and esteems you'. To show real affection writers concluded 'your most loving husband who loves you with all his heart and waits for you with open arms'.
Previous studies suggest modern ideas of marriage being about romance, rather than economic status did not emerge in England and North America until the 17th century. However, the strikingly high use of terms of affection in the correspondence of Spanish Americans suggests that the model of cold, loveless marital relations prior to mid-17th century does not apply to the Hispanic world.
In these days of text messaging, email and answering machines, the traditional love letter seems doomed. Dr Earle's research reveals the richness of letters as a window into the past. Will future historians analyse text messages so as to understand 21st century love?
Source: Eurekalert & othersLast reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 21 Feb 2009
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