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Disciplined Friends Can Help Individuals Improve Self-Control

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Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on April 10, 2013

Disciplined Friends Can Help Individuals Improve Self-Control New research suggests self-discipline is improved when an individual is surrounded by friends who display strong resolve.

Duke University investigators found that people with low self-control prefer and depend on people with high self-control, possibly as a way to make up for the skills they themselves lack.

“We all know how much effort it takes to overcome temptation,” said Catherine Shea, lead author of the study and a doctoral student in psychologist Dr. Gráinne Fitzsimons’s lab.

“People with low self-control could relieve a lot of their self-control struggles by being with an individual who helps them.”

To test this prediction, Shea and her colleagues conducted two lab-based studies and one study with real-life romantic partners.

In the first study, participants were asked to watch a video. The researchers experimentally manipulated participants’ self-control by asking one group to avoid reading words that flashed up on the screen during the video (depleting their self-control), while giving no such instructions to the other group.

Each participant then read a vignette about one of three office managers — one who demonstrated low self-control behavior, one who demonstrated high self-control behavior, and one who demonstrated both high and low self-control behaviors. The participants then rated the office managers on their leadership abilities.

The results were clear: When people were temporarily depleted of their self-control, they rated the manager who had high self-control more positively than the two other managers.

Researchers believe the findings suggest that participants seemed to compensate for their own lack of self-control by valuing it in others.

A second study confirmed these results: People who demonstrated low trait self-control on a standard self-control task also showed a preference for the manager with high self-control.

In the third study, the researchers tested their hypothesis using survey data from 136 romantic couples. Again, the data confirmed the hypothesis: Individuals who reported having low self-control also reported greater dependence on their partner if the partner happened to have high self-control.

Researchers believe the findings show that the phenomenon isn’t just lab-based, it also extends to real-world relationships.

“Self-control, by its name and definition, is a ‘self’ process — something that we do alone, as individuals,” observes Shea. “Yet, when we order food on a menu or go to work, we’re often surrounded by other people.”

Experts say the findings are novel because previous research has typically focused on the downsides of low self-control, such as poorer academic achievement and health outcomes.

But this new research suggests that individuals who lack self-control may actually have a unique skill: the ability to pick up on self-control cues in others and use those cues to form adaptive relationships.

“What we have shown is that low self-control individuals seem to implicitly surround themselves with individuals who can help them overcome temptation — you get by with a little help from your friends,” says Shea.

The research findings are published in the journal Psychological Science.

Source: Association for Psychological Science

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APA Reference
Nauert, R. (2013). Disciplined Friends Can Help Individuals Improve Self-Control. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 22, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/news/2013/04/10/disciplined-friends-can-help-individuals-improve-self-control/53643.html