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Dad’s Love Helps Child’s Personality Development

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Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on June 13, 2012

Dads Love Helps Childs Personality DevelopmentDespite the best efforts of counselors and the legal system, our divorce-laden society often involves rejection of a child by a parent.

A new study discovers that while mothers have a unique social and emotional bond with each child, a father’s love contributes as much — and sometimes more — to a child’s development.

This finding is one of many stemming from a new large-scale analysis of research about the power of parental rejection and acceptance in shaping our personalities as children and into adulthood.

“In our half-century of international research, we’ve not found any other class of experience that has as strong and consistent effect on personality and personality development as does the experience of rejection, especially by parents in childhood,” said Ronald Rohner, Ph.D., of the University of Connecticut.

Rohner is co-author of a new study found in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Review.

“Children and adults everywhere — regardless of differences in race, culture, and gender — tend to respond in exactly the same way when they perceived themselves to be rejected by their caregivers and other attachment figures.”

In a review of 36 studies international studies that involved more than 10,000 participants, Rohner and co-author Abdul Khaleque discovered that parental rejection causes children to feel more anxious and insecure, as well as more hostile and aggressive toward others.

Researchers discovered the pain of rejection — especially when it occurs over a period of time in childhood — tends to linger into adulthood, making it more difficult for adults who were rejected as children to form secure and trusting relationships with their intimate partners.

The studies are based on surveys of children and adults about their parents’ degree of acceptance or rejection during their childhood, coupled with questions about their personality dispositions.

Moreover, Rohner said, emerging evidence from the past decade of research in psychology and neuroscience is revealing that the same parts of the brain are activated when people feel rejected as are activated when they experience physical pain.

“Unlike physical pain, however, people can psychologically relive the emotional pain of rejection over and over for years,” Rohner said.

Researchers studied if children would be affected differently, depending on whether the mother or father rejected a child.

The results from more than 500 studies suggest that while children and adults often experience more or less the same level of acceptance or rejection from each parent, the influence of one parent’s rejection — oftentimes the father’s — can be much greater than the other’s.

A 13-nation team of psychologists working on the International Father Acceptance Rejection Project has developed at least one explanation for this difference: that children and young adults are likely to pay more attention to whichever parent they perceive to have higher interpersonal power or prestige.

So if a child perceives her father as having higher prestige, he may be more influential in her life than the child’s mother. Work is ongoing to better understand this potential relationship.

One important take-home message from all this research, Rohner said, is that fatherly love is critical to a person’s development. The importance of a father’s love should help motivate many men to become more involved in nurturing child care.

Additionally, he said, widespread recognition of the influence of fathers on their children’s personality development should help reduce the incidence of “mother blaming” common in schools and clinical setting.

“The great emphasis on mothers and mothering in America has led to an inappropriate tendency to blame mothers for children’s behavior problems and maladjustment when, in fact, fathers are often more implicated than mothers in the development of problems such as these.”

Source: Society for Personality and Social Psychology

Father with child photo by shutterstock.

 

APA Reference
Nauert, R. (2012). Dad’s Love Helps Child’s Personality Development. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 21, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/news/2012/06/13/dads-love-helps-childs-personality-development/40064.html