A new study reviews the societal and familial challenges single women face when they reach their mid-30s.
The revelations are somewhat puzzling given the so-called societal advancement that has occurred over the last two decades.
In the new study, researchers find that although the number of single women has increased, the stigma associated with being single at that age has not diminished.
In 2009, approximately 40 percent of adults were single, according to the U.S. Census Bureau.
In the study, titled “I’m a Loser, I’m Not Married, Let’s Just All Look at Me”, Larry Ganong of the University of Missouri and Elizabeth Sharp from Texas Tech University, conducted 32 interviews with middle-class, never-married women who felt that considerable attention was directed at them because of their age and single status.
“We found that never-married women’s social environments are characterized by pressure to conform to the conventional life pathway.”
“This pressure was manifested in women feeling highly visible and invisible. Heightened visibility came from feelings of exposure and invisibility came from assumptions made by others.”
Researchers discovered women often feel heightened visibility in situations such as bouquet tosses at weddings. These events brought about unwanted, intrusive questions.
Feeling invisible, on the other hand, was likely when others made assumptions that they were married and had children or when they had to justify their singlehood. These interactions made them feel that their actual lives weren’t important or went unnoticed.
Specifically, single women’s social worlds include:
The visibility and invisibility factors were impacted by age, according to Ganong. The mid-20s through mid-30s is a time of intense contemplation and concern for single women regarding their future family trajectories.
Women older than 35 tend to be content with being single and don’t express as much dissatisfaction as do younger women.
Women ages 25-35 felt the most stigma, which may be attributed to the fact that being single is more acceptable before age 25. After reaching that age, they feel more scrutinized by friends, family members and others.
“Mainstream media also enforce these ideas,” Ganong said.
“For example, shows like ‘Sex and the City,’ which portray female protagonists who are hyper-focused on finding men, and end with the majority of those characters getting married, are popular.”
Ganong has a joint appointment in the MU Sinclair School of Nursing. The study will be published in the Journal of Family Issues.
Source: University of Missouri