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Improve Relationships by Sincere Actions

By Senior News Editor
Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on May 25, 2007

New research suggests making sacrifices for your partner is a more satisfying action for both parties if you genuinely want to perform the task.

That is, if you do something positive for your mate, does it matter why? The answer is yes, according University of Rochester research assistant professor Heather Patrick.

Her study shows both small sacrifices, like doing the dishes for your partner, and big ones, like moving across the country for a new job he or she really wants, mean more if you do them because you really want to.

To answer one of the most common conundrums of romantic relationships, Patrick asked 266 men and women in relationships to document either their own or their partner’s pro-relationship behaviors (PRB) for two weeks.

Pro-relationship behavior can be any sacrifice or accommodation made out of consideration for one’s partner or one’s relationship.

Patrick found that partners who engaged in PRB because they wanted to—not because they felt pressured or obligated to—were more satisfied in their relationships, more committed to them, and felt closer to their mates following PRB experiences.

But she also found that people who simply perceived that their partners engaged in PRB because they wanted to were also more satisfied and committed to their relationship after a partner’s PRB.

Patrick says her research has practical applications. She sees it being used for individual and couples therapy. She says this new information gives couples and psychology professionals insight into why some relationships aren’t fulfilling even when everything looks OK on the surface.

“It’s important to understand what makes positive relationships positive and what might undermine positive experiences,” Patrick said.

Patrick’s research illustrates the crux of Self-Determination Theory: A self-motivated person derives more satisfaction in completing a given task, and is more likely to do it well.

Source: Rochester University

 

 

APA Reference
Nauert, R. (2007). Improve Relationships by Sincere Actions. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 21, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/news/2007/05/25/improve-relationships-by-sincere-actions/854.html

 

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