Thinking About Using Match.com?

By Stacey Goldstein

It can be a big decision to start online dating. Some people still see it as a service for losers who can’t meet people in real life. In reality, it’s a good option for busy, normal people. I know many people who have luck with it. I’ve done it and met some great men and some not so great men. Like real life, it offers good and bad options.

Online dating is a way to meet people you would never come across in your daily life. If you did come across them, you would probably walk by them on the street or stand behind them in line at the grocery store and never speak. Online, it’s possible to meet these people while wearing your flannel pajamas and ugly slippers. Single people are available for the emailing any time of day and it doesn’t matter if you are having a good hair day or not.

Getting Started

The most mainstream and popular dating site is Match.com. Millions of single men have posted themselves, hoping to meet you. There are so many people on the site that it can take weeks to wade through all of them when you first sign up. I live in a major city and within five miles of my apartment, there are approximately 500 single men in my age range.

If you’re kicking around signing up for match.com, the best thing to do (if available) is to get someone else’s login. By spending time on the site, you’ll be able to see if there are people there who interest you. You can get a feel for the site without making a monetary commitment.

If another person’s login is not available to you, you can still search through match.com without a login. The only limitation is that you will see only one photo and you’ll be cut off after viewing a few profiles. If you get cut off, clear the cache in your browser and the site should let you view more profiles.

After you’ve poked around the site and seen what the offerings are, you can give up on the idea, or go ahead and sign up. The only thing you have to lose by signing up is $50. It’s likely you’ll make this money back in free dinners anyway.

The You You Want Others to See

The first step after you sign up is posting your profile. This starts with pictures. It’s best to choose photos that show you in a range of situations. Not just the one of you in your best friend’s wedding wearing perfect makeup and with professionally done hair. You can post that photo, just be sure to post one reflecting what you look like every day. If you have recently cut your hair from butt length to chin length, choose the photo of the chin length hair. Show what you really look like.

The rest of the profile is all about how you answer the following profile questions:

This is the character limited, essay portion:

For fun
My job
My religion
Favorite hot spots
Favorite things
Last read
About me and what I’m looking for (you get many more characters for this one, it’s your chance to talk about whatever you would like)

These are the easy questions that you answer using a pre-determined list:

Your Age
Town you live in
Age range of men you are seeking
Location of men you are seeking
Relationships (Marital status)
Do you have kids
Do you want kids
Ethnicity
Body type
Height
Religion
Do you smoke
How often do you drink
Hair color
Eyes color
Best Feature
Any body art
What Sports and exercise you like
Exercise habit
Daily diet
Interests
Education
Occupation
Income
Languages you speak
Politics
Astrological Sign
My Place (living situation)
Pets I have
Pets I like

You also will need to choose a headline. See what other women have chosen, then make yours unique and catchy. Your headline, photo, and the first couple lines of your “about me and what I’m looking for” response will be what show up when men do searches.

Once you finish writing your fabulous responses to all these questions, proofread everything. There are people out there, me being one of them, who will quickly dismiss a profile based on poor grammar or misspellings. Your profile is how you are representing yourself to the match.com community, you don’t want to look like a dummy.

What Next?

When you are ready to post your profile, you’ll receive an email message telling you that it can take up to 72 hours for your profile to become available to the world. In reality, it’s more like 12-24 hours for your first posting. Get ready. Your inbox will soon be full of winks and emails to do what you please with.

Online dating can be entertaining and you may meet someone worthy of your affections. Have fun with it. Give it a shot. If you find it’s not for you, you can always cancel your membership.

 

APA Reference
Goldstein, S. (2006). Thinking About Using Match.com?. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 1, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/lib/thinking-about-using-matchcom/000597
Scientifically Reviewed
    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 30 Jan 2013
    Published on PsychCentral.com. All rights reserved.

 

 

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