There are many good techniques and resources for dealing with stress. Perhaps the most important fact is this: Nearly all the stress-related factors in our lives can be modified. We begin with a little help from our friends.
One of the best antidotes for stress is social support: the psychological and physical resources that others provide to help an individual cope with adversity. Research shows that people who encounter major life stresses, such as the loss of a spouse or job, come through the ordeal more easily if they have an effective network of friends or family for social support.(1) By contrast, people with few close relationships die younger, on the average, than people with good social support networks.(2)(3)(4)(5)(6) In fact, the lack of a reliable support network increases the risk of dying from disease, suicide or accidents by about the same percentage as does smoking.(7)
Social support can take many forms. First, socioemotional support gives you the message that you are loved, cared for, esteemed and connected to other people in a network of communication and mutual obligation.(7)(8)
At times, other people can also provide tangible support (money, transportation, housing) and informational support (advice, personal feedback, expert guidance). Anyone with whom you have a significant relationship can be part of your social support network in time of need.
Much research points to the power of social support in moderating vulnerability to a variety of stressful situations.(9) When people have other people they can turn to, they are psychologically better able to handle job stressors, unemployment, marital disruption, serious illness and other catastrophes, as well as the everyday problems of living.(4)(6) In contrast, lack of a social support system clearly increases one’s vulnerability to disease and death.(2) Moreover, decreased social support in family and work environments is related to increases in psychological problems.
Who is supportive? Health psychologist Shelley Taylor and her colleagues at UCLA have studied the effectiveness of different types of social support given to cancer patients. They found that the effects of the helpfulness depended on who the helper was. For example, patients appreciated information and advice from physicians but not from family members, and they valued a spouse’s “just being there” but not a doctor’s or nurse’s mere presence.(10)(11) Ironically, researchers have also found that attempts at support can sometimes backfire and actually increasethe recipient’s anxiety.(12) Accordingly, if you prefer to attend a doctor’s appointment alone, your mother’s insistence on accompanying you might cause you to feel anxious, not relaxed. In that case, inappropriate social support may become intrusive and not helpful in the long run. On the other hand, a close other who
is not supportive may leave you in greater stress than if you were alone. For example, the symptoms of depression are more likely to increase for a married person who cannot communicate well with his or her spouse than for another subject without a spouse.(13)
One’s larger community can also be thought of as a potential support system. People belong to many organizations (neighborhood, religious, extended family) that can identify those who require support and channel resources to them. In times of crisis, when a catastrophe strikes a community, both individual and collective efforts are necessary to save lives.(14) As the human brain has evolved, we have inherited the capacity to connect with others as a way to promote our survival. Taking care of those who need help is an extension of self-protection motives: Our social relationships increase the support we all have available, both to give and receive.
Relaxation training and biofeedback
Another approach to coping with stress involves relaxation and leisure. The problem is that our ability to relax is, to a large extent, influenced by activity in the hormone system and the autonomic nervous system—neither of which is normally under direct voluntary control.
One way around this problem relies on a technique called biofeedback to help people whose internal biological responses have surged out of control. Biofeedback devices measure a variety of physical responses, such as muscle tone, perspiration, skin temperature and brain waves. The device then gives the user immediate information, or feedback, about subtle changes in these responses—changes of which they are not usually aware. With this feedback, subjects can learn relaxation techniques and see how they affect their physical responses.
How effective is biofeedback in learning to control stress? Despite some early, overblown claims for its effectiveness, biofeedback has not proved to be the cure-all that some hoped it would be. More realistically, it may be helpful as one component of a multidimensional therapy package(16)(17) through which people learn to relax in the face of stress.
An optimist sees the glass as half full, while the pessimist sees it as half empty. The optimist sees opportunity, where the pessimist sees potential disaster. The optimist enjoys the smooth sailing, as the pessimist sees only a calm before the storm. Which approach has the advantage under stress? “Life inflicts the same setbacks and tragedies on the optimist as on the pessimist,” says psychologist Martin Seligman(18), “but the optimist weathers them better.”
A long-term research program by Seligman and his associates at the University of Pennsylvania indicates that an optimistic style of thinkinghas health benefits. This approach to life has three general characteristics:
- It attributes an unpleasant experience tospecific causes rather than global problems: “I feel fine except for this headache.”
- It blames problems on external rather than internal conditions: “I probably got the headache from reading too long without a break; next study session, I’ll remember to stop and stretch every half hour.”
- It assumes that the causes of pain or illness are unstable or temporary; for example, “I don’t usually have headaches for very long, so I’m sure I’ll feel better soon.”
Seligman believes that an optimistic thinking style can be learned. Specifically, he advises those who feel depressed or helpless to acquire an optimistic outlook by talking to themselves. This self-therapy, says Seligman, should concentrate on the meaning and causes of personal setbacks. For example, if a dieter splurges on a piece of dessert, instead of thinking, “Since I’ve ruined my whole diet, I might as well eat the whole cake!” she or he should think, “Well, I enjoyed that, but I’ll stop with that piece and I know I am strong enough to stick to this diet most of the time.” In essence, Seligman argues that optimism is learned by adopting a constructive style of thinking, self-assessment and behavioral planning.
A psychotherapy technique, known as cognitive restructuring, is based on the constructive reappraisal of stressors. The approach recognizes two especially important factors in determining how people perceive stress: their uncertainty about impending events and their sense of control over them.(19) Consequently, two ways people can reduce stress are to reduce their uncertainty about stressful events by finding out as much as they can in advance and to increase their sense of control by learning healthy coping techniques. Cognitive restructuring is especially suitable for people who are having problems with chronic stress.
In general, the work on optimistic thinking and cognitive restructuring attests to the power of the mind to promote health and well-being. When you believe your problems are manageable and controllable, you are more likely to deal with them effectively—which averts the ravages of excessive stress. Consequently, optimistic people have fewer physical symptoms of illness, recover more quickly from certain disorders, are generally healthier and live longer than pessimists do.(20)
You can apply the lesson of reappraisal if, for example, you are worried about giving a speech to a large, forbidding audience. Try imagining your potential critics in some ridiculous situation—say, sitting there in the nude—and they become less intimidating and perhaps more self-conscious than critical. If you are anxious about being shy at a social function you must attend, think about finding someone who is more shy than you and reducing his or her social anxiety by starting a conversation. You can learn to reappraise stressors by engaging the creative skills you already possess and by imagining and planning your life in more positive, constructive ways.
The Power of Humor
Physicians like Patch Adams have long believed that people’s mental attitudes can make a difference in the length of time they take to recover from an illnessor even whether they recover.
In a famous book, The Anatomy of an Illness,(21) Norman Cousins described his refusal to succumb to the orthodox routine of hospital treatment for a grave form of rheumatoid arthritis. He objected to the regimen of painkilling and tranquilizing drugs and the bland hospital diet. Instead, with the help of a sympathetic physician, Cousins checked himself out of the hospital and into happier surroundings: a hotel room, where he stopped taking his painkillers and tranquilizers.
In their place, he substituted large doses of vitamin C and a nearly continuous diet of oldCandid Camera tapes, Marx Brothers films and other favorite comedies. Remarkably, he not only survived, but he reversed many of his symptoms. Cousins credited his success to taking control over his environment and his illness and to replacing toxic negative emotions with healthful laughter. He concluded that laughter helps renew the adrenal glands, which can become exhausted from fighting disease.
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