Whether or not to tell your husband about your masturbation is really up to you. I applaud you for being in touch with your own sexual pleasure and attending to yourself as needed. Many people end up pressuring their partners for sexual activity during stressful times which can, in fact, add more negative pressure to the relationship and to the emotional state of the depressed person.

Take a few minutes to think about how you believe he would respond to your disclosure about masturbation. Will it make you feel better to tell? Do you think your husband will feel badly about not being able to please you sexually? Would it be possible to talk with him about this topic in a general way — so you can get a better read on how he might respond? These are all questions that I would ask myself.

Masturbation is a personal activity that can be enjoyed alone or shared with a partner both in thought and in practice. Take some time to think about your own situation before going forward with any action.