Bachelor No. 2 is a 31–year-old web programmer. He also lives in my town, making him geographically desirable. He has only two photos on his Match.com page and they seem okay, but it is hard to tell.
Everything about this guy seems good except for one issue. He does not drink. It’s not only that he does not drink alcohol, he does not like drinking beverages in general. I find this extremely strange. Going out for a beer or a coffee is something I do all the time. It’s an accepted and normal thing to do when being social. If Bachelor No. 2 does not like bars or coffee shops, this cuts us off from something I enjoy doing.
Other than his lack of enjoyment of liquids, so far everything else seems good with this man. We have exchanged lengthy emails every day for the last week or two. While we have not had communication about anything particularly deep (as I think it is odd to tell a stranger anything hugely personal), I know a fair amount about his taste in movies, food, and jobs. I am down with his opinions on surface matters.
On Friday, I am meeting this man at a coffee shop. He seemed to be okay with that. We’ll see if he orders a beverage.
Bachelor No. 3 is a 37-year-old teacher. I have mixed feelings about this. I have only gone out with a teacher once and it did not go well. I felt like the teacher I went out with had a teacherish-schtick. He talked to me like I was one of his ninth grade students, not a woman he hoped to see naked. It was not an enjoyable evening. Yes, I can’t project my one experience dating a teacher onto everyone, but if Bachelor No. 3 has a similar demeanor, I may not date any more teachers.
Bachelor No. 3 lives with seven other men in a former convent. Yes, nuns used to live where Bachelor No. 3 resides with seven other single men. He has said that the things that go on there would make Jesus weep. I totally believe him, it sounds like a frat house. He said that when they first moved in it was a lot like the movie Old School but the men who lived there have mellowed with age.
Bachelor No. 3 has offered me entertaining emails about topics such as tuna fish and karaoke. He seems like a funny guy and I’ll give him a shot. We are supposed to go out next week sometime.
Bachelor No. 4 is a 36-year-old marketing and web development person. My situation with him is particularly odd. He has seen me in person and knows exactly who I am. My job is pretty public – he saw me at work and recognized me from Match.com. I received an initial email from him stating that he had seen me and hoped that wasn’t weird. Yes, it is weird, but I knew it was possible that would happen. Because he has seen me, I feel like this man has the advantage in this situation.
Bachelor No. 4 is incredibly active. He is into running and cycling and all sorts of physical activity. So am I. I like that he is so active and he writes funny emails. However, I hate to say this, I have a suspicion that he is not very attractive. I think his Match.com photos are pretty old. In my opinion, anyone who says that attraction and physical appearance do not matter at all is completely full of it. I require some sort of attraction to the person I am dating.
We’ll see what happens with this one. The bad thing is that if I go out with this guy and don’t like him, I will still have to see him at my workplace.
Conclusion: Who knows, one of these people, none of these people, or all of these people could be awesome to date. I have to meet them all to consider their potential. As I go out with these men, I will keep you posted.
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Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 30 Jan 2013
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