Is It Normal to Masturbate When You’re Married?
Masturbation is a part of most people’s sex life — even when they find themselves in a long-term relationship. And yes, even marriage. Many people who are married continue to masturbate, enjoying both their partner’s sexuality while continuing to enjoy their own as well.
There is absolutely no reason to feel guilty for masturbating even though you are married or in a long-term relationship with your partner. Most men and women do indeed continue to masturbate when they are in a relationship — it does not mean that there is anything wrong.
In fact, research shows that those people who masturbate more also have more (and more satisfying) sex. That’s probably because a person who masturbates continues to be in touch with their own body and their own sexual needs and desires more than someone who doesn’t. It also means they are getting their sexual needs met as often as they’d like — putting less pressure on their partner for their sexual needs.
When sex does happen with your partner, the focus becomes more on their pleasure rather than yours.
People have sex, as well as masturbate, for all sorts of reasons. Often men and women feel like having an orgasm or pleasuring themselves as a quick stress reliever, as a “pick-me-up”, or just because they are very aroused but don’t want to go through the whole process of sex.
Masturbating is also a great way to learn about your own body, which invariably makes for better sex with a partner. Men can use masturbation as a way to learn how to control their orgasms, while women can learn how to have orgasms more easily.
Sometimes people feel that if everything was perfect in a sexual relationship, then neither partner would “need” to masturbate. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Simply put, good sex begets more good sex — in all its forms. In fact, many couples masturbate together and find it a very enjoyable part of their relationship. Honestly, there is no need to feel guilty. Listen to the good doctor: Masturbation is good for you!
Ashworth, M. (2016). Is It Normal to Masturbate When You’re Married?. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 24, 2016, from http://psychcentral.com/lib/is-it-normal-to-masturbate-when-youre-married/