Before the Funeral…

  • Offer to notify his family and friends about funeral arrangements
  • House-sit to prevent burglaries during the funeral and visitations
  • Help answering the phone and greeting visitors
  • Keep a record of everyone who calls, visits or has been contacted
  • Help coordinate the food and drink supply
  • Offer to pick up friends and family at the airport. Arrange housing
  • Offer to provide transportation for out-of-town visitors
  • Help him keep the house cleaned and the dishes washed

After the Funeral…

  • Prepare or provide dinner on a day that is mutually acceptable
  • Do the step above every week for two to three months
  • Offer to help with yard chores such as watering or pruning
  • Feed and exercise the pets, if any
  • Write notes offering encouragement and support
  • Offer to drive or accompany him to the cemetery regularly
  • Offer to house sit so he can get away or visit family out of town
  • Make a weekly run to the grocery store, laundry, or cleaners
  • Help with the Thank You notes and/or other correspondence
  • Anticipate difficult periods such as anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, and the day of
  • Always mention the deceased by name and encourage reminiscing

Above all, just listening and your concern and presence will help.